now, after all these years, the ex wants to do battle.
why? because i'm in a relationship. after almost a decade, i found someone. someone i can love and trust.
all in the guise of wanting more time with m. it's unreal. so here we are, moving just south of the state line, and that is enough.
that is enough to receive threats, demands, and downright nastiness to the point of having to consult an attorney in order to move 10 miles.
she can't stand my choices, while she's remarried (twice), and bought houses, and done the whole dance. she seemingly moved on.
i sure did.
but here, we have a sad excuse for a mom, a sad excuse for a woman, who is vindictive and awful.
for what it's worth, kiddo is tired and confused; she still wants attention from her mom, but realizes this woman just wants to ruin what we have. with every text message, she seeks to chisel away at the family i am building. she actually said she was worried my wife may have more "power" over m than her. Without further adieu, here's the list, verbatim:
My concerns and amendments:
*she will not be moved from X and allowed to graduate 8th grade
* relocating parent will transport child, at minimum, half of the distance between homes (Per my attorney, the relocating parent generally bears the burden of transportation)
* summer visitation will be increased to three weeks from the previous two and will be exclusive of trip to FL to visit my parents
* Christmas “switch” will be on Dec 27 henceforth to allow for travel time during holidays— we are planning to go to FL for Christmas this year and in 2021
* timely and appropriate communication will occur between adults, m will not be involved in adult conversations or decisions until such time as it is appropriate for her to be brought in to those conversations
* academic expectations: m will maintain a minimum GPA of 3.2 at her new school, or circumstances may be deemed to be sufficient to bring her back to TN for school. I will need to have access to a parent portal for grades (if such exists), and behavior expectations, both in and out of school, shall be agreed upon by parents and child.
As I stated on the phone, i have been advised that all of my requests are reasonable. You and I have 20 days to reach an agreement regarding the move, and I would like to make these additions/amendments to the plan so that we can both move on.
However, i do believe that it is best to have these things legally and in writing.
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So i've raised her, from kindergarten all the way through 8th grade, and now, NOW, she wants more time. now that i'm remarried, and moving down the road, she wants to fight. she told me "2019 is gonna be a hell of a year for you".
well, she's over $14k behind in child support, and in spite of having to share me with a stepmom and a stepdaughter, she's ready to move. and she doesn't want anything changed. i am in a good place, legally, but i am still loathe to fight this woman. i just want her to move away, or relinquish this haphazard attempt at pleasing her dad, or her new husband, or whatever game she's trying to play.
m sees right through it.
